but at what cost?
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
A ship in the harbour is safe, but that's not what ships are built for
Until that bitch of a hurricane finds that harbor and sleeps with that ship's best friend.
So uhh, you wanna talk about it or?
It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.
It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.
Ngl, after the last 34 years, id be ok with that.
It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable
It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable
Is that supposed to have a negative connotation to it? Because I feel like that's preferable.
You're describing a mental illness that I've suffered from for 25 years. You'd be surprised to find what it's really like to be unable to mourn the deaths of your loved ones, connect with people emotionally. If you can't feel sorrow, you can't feel joy.
Appreciate you're a whole human being with all it's hurts.
Im not whole, but very glad i can still feel atleast.
impenetrable to pain, to happiness to kindness, to satisfaction, to joy.
irredeemable because of no room for compassion leading to possible actions of evil of hate of apathy, indifference to anyone or anything self included.
That doesn't sound like a life I'd want to live.
It's very much not preferable.
I feel that
Something like this but ugh... then you know? Relationship or not
42 years. Same.
Whenever someone makes a quote, is there just a guy in the corner who writes it down word for word
Like a professional quote down writer?
“If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it”
no risk no reward, rings don't mean anything without the promise kept, to care.
I hate this phrase because it puts all the emphasis on a man to make the move. In this context what does the woman do if she really likes someone? Just sit on her hands and wait for the guy to ‘put a ring on it’.
Idk, if she breaks your heart she's going to do it either way. The ring is just a key so she could take half of your stuff with her when she leaves.
Won but lost everything
....half of my belongings
I was about to say this line ....
So was I...
You can't win if you don't play in the first place
no a simulation
A simulated relationship
deaf people when they win an auction:
Can you win if you were the only one playing?
Ever heard of single player games
Except ya play yourself
In the end, everything ends in FAP.
Certainly. And happy fapulous cake day!
Correct, yes, I also believe that was the joke
Username checks out
The good thing about single player games is that you can cheat and it doesnt hurt anyone else 🤷♂️
Wait... i don’t think my analogy works...
The moment you start playing the "I love you more" game with yourself, you are already a winner.
Take my poor man's gold🥇!
That's a game worth playing all the time.
Don't break up with yourself
There was a couple in Sweden who bought a chapel with some land recently for ~€22.000 - they got it because no one else bid.
I'd call that a win.
You dumped yourself?
Who caaan saay where the roooad gooes
Not if they broke up with you because you're a soulless husk of a man, incapable of loving anybody but himself.
Edit: Thank you for the awards and.. stuff. I will keep them in my heart, where they will do nothing to fill the gaping maw portending the void beyond.
Um, you ok bro?
let him vent. He needs this.
not since the accident..
Yeah, you go, Kauffy 😅
Get it? u/Go_Kauffy?
He just needs an ostrich to to cure his loneliness, but it has to be sick.
Still would take at least 3 people though, wouldn’t it?
I'm sure he's fine lol, his bio is "If you have any wonder, it was probably sarcasm."
Soulless husk? Yes
Love myself? Fuck no
Mom said it’s my turn with the soulless husk
A soulless husk is the perfect void for French fries. And that too, is a form of love.
You need to talk, man?
I just got confronted by my gf's dad. Well maybe ex-gf?? Idk.
He came to my house and in front of all my neighbors started screaming at me about me talking to his daughter.
He doesn't want her dating me. She's in her 20's and trying to control her life still.
He told me if I contact her again he's gonna be in jail and I'm gonna be in a hospital...
I got it all on my Ring doorbell camera
Weirdest Ring ad ever.
Sounds like it's time to get the preemptive strike in and make sure he lands in jail regardless.
Yeah I'm not particularly scared of him. Ever since I landed a decent paying job I've been training in boxing 3x a week for the past few years. I used to be bullied in HS so I always wanted to take those. I also have a full foot in height on him and he's overweight and would tire out easy. Unless he brings a weapon or something.
I'm just kinda feeling like shit for even being in the situation. Like, she's a grown ass adult. Let her make her own decisions.
That's cute that you assume someone threatening you means they'll be honorable and stick to fisticuffs mano y mano.
Of course he would bring a weapon. Don't be foolish.
He can also see those differences, and plan around them. Nobody that wants to hurt you will ever start a fight on your terms.
Look at popular reaction to the David and Goliath tale. Have you ever seen anyone criticize that story saying it was unfair for David to use a weapon? No, they celebrate David as the hero. The smaller guy who wants to win will see fighting dirty as fair.
Thanks for giving me that perspective. I never thought about it that way.
You make a really good point, and I don't mean to undermine it, but didn't Goliath have a sword or spear?
Yeah Goliath was fully decked out ready for battle. David wasn't fighting dirty at all.
I checked to be sure and yes actually! Goliath had a spear and armour, David was offered similar but declined to use Saul's weapons and armour because his faith was so strong. He did obviously use weapons in the end, so maybe the faith line doesn't fit? My memory is fallible, I might have versions of the story mixed up
He also kills Goliath on I think one throw, but he prepared five stones. So his faith wasn't actually literally enough in the story, he had prepared a weapon and spare ammo. I found this neat article about it you might enjoy ( https://medium.com/@thatdankent/why-did-david-pick-up-5-stones-ee42afe68af3#:~:text=David%20believed%20strongly%20enough%20(whatever,1%20Samuel%2017%3A40).&text=David%20was%20able%20to%20defeat,training%2C%20experience%2C%20and%20knowledge.)
The point being David had five rocks to use from range, Goliath never even got to hit David. His muscle, his size, his spear, none of it matters if the other guy has the equivalent of a gun. So that's what we should caution people to worry about. You're never more likely to win a fight somebody else starts, because they're not going to pick a way that you'll win.
In terms of a fair fight, look at Fezzik in the princess bride. He fights Westley in a fistfight. Westley complains that the fight isn't fair because of their size difference, Fezzik says it isn't his fault he is so much larger. Using the same weapons (their bodies), Westley still wins with skill. That to me is a better version of the same story... and the big guy still loses. Fighting isn't safe, and I was worried the other guy felt relaxed about being threatened.
Lmao I have a feeling we don't know the full story.
Can your gf not speak for herself or?
hey dude if you need to vent just dm me
Homie I felt you
I think people often confuse “incapable of loving anyone but yourself” with “incapable of loving anyone because you don’t even love yourself.”
I see it is like a circle of love with yourself as the very center. Some people got rly big circles, some circles include everybody. And sometimes the circle is so small, not even you fit in.....
bitch u gonna be fine this year n u gonna be a bad mfkin bitch 😌❤️
I feel attacked
This is when you start loving someone and show them they were wrong. Basically do it out of spite and then realize its still real.
From one guy to another. If you can emerge from what you thought was a failed relationship with this kind of self-awareness, you're already making good progress. Kudos
Cheer up, it is possible that everyone is a soulless husk and nothing but eternal oblivion awaits us.
Also if you can't love yourself then how are you going to love anyone else?
Can I get an "Amen" up in here?
I feel you.
I got told I was "instinctually evil" and incapable of using emotions other than to manipulate people.
But what if your soul exists but it sort of intersects with the husk like in a Venn diagram so some parts are soulless but the other bit is definitely soulful. like that can happen. That's an option. You have options
The person in the relationship that cares the least usually has the most power.
Alright alright alright
Love is war
What is love
Baby don't hurt me.
Don't hurt me
Din dun dun dun Din dun dun dun
Kaguya-sama is it you?
Love is war a battlefield
Oh love me Mistaaa!
Makes logical sense
And sometimes the power switches hands.
Nah, I fell for her but eventually had to dump her for the sake of self respect. She was using me.
A real L is better than a fake W
Spoken like a true poet
I'm stealing this line.
you know, I wumbo, you wumbo, he she we wumbo!
wumboed, wumboing, wumbology
the study of wumbo!
It's first grade spongebob...
Had a similar situation good on you, it’s hard to get out especially as a dude in that situation. Women really know how to fake love
Good on you.. is never easy.
But they probably won the "you hang up first" game
I go on reddit to escape my life but then I see this.
Lol, it’s all good. OP this is a hella good shower thought.
And i won a broken heart and a kick in the butt too...
I’m just here to say that I have an interview tomorrow morning and I’m in need of all your best wishes
best wishes to my guy, and god speed
youre gonna kill it bro
Best of luck mate. Let us all know how it goes.
Let's go freaking man!
You’re gonna crush it
Sending good vibes your way
So do I! Hope it goes well for both of us!
Good luck to you too!
You go ace that interview and then we'll get take out, how's that sound ?
You're gonna nail it! Get some sleep.
Good luck! You're gunna crush it!!
Good luck homie.
You got this!
Good luck!!! You got this!
Happy blue sandwich day to you!
Awwww yay!! don’t forget: firm handshake, have some questions ready, and Good luck c:
You cannot handle my wishes. They are too strong for you
What does that have to do with this post?
You got this! Good luck
All the very best!!
All the best my man! You got this!
You've got this! Good luck
Show them who's boss!!
I needed this, thank you
This makes my heart hurt.
it makes my heart hurt
As well as mine
But what if you were manipulative, abusive, and/or toxic?
Technicalities don't have room for your justifications!
Tell that to my ex wife. For the record, she asked me to leave, and now she misses me more than I miss her.
Not to crap on your point. But I'll crap away. I had to leave my wife because I loved her more. Unreciprocated love is brutal.
That’s not true man. It wasn’t me... it was her. She told me so.
Maybe they're breaking up with you because you think love is a game
And they love you so much that they want you to win the game
Also they think “I love you more” is a competition, which is not what it actually means. It’s a shorthand for a couple different meanings, none of which are to compete with other people.
Eh, not in every case.
Personal story in 3, 2, 1...
Was dating for a few months, I had liked her at first, but grew to dislike them over the coming weeks after noticing things that were bad.
I hadn't broken up with her because she was depressed and suicidal, within the first week I had probably spent 6+ hours texting her because she was thinking of ending it. I had kept up with it because I didn't know how she would handle it if I told her I wanted the relationship to end.
Then the day came, she randomly texted me if I wanted us to break up, reason being was she noticed I wasn't making any moves to get more intimate.
I said yes, and we broke up somewhat mutually. :/
Then the information came and I learned of a lot more red flags, but also kept feeling more and more sad for her.
She had a lot more mental stuff going on than I thought (cutting, voices, attempts of suicide with pills, practicing lots of "witchcraft", uncleanness, belief in a lot of fiction), it was just a big shitshow for her. But I had also learned she was faking stories and was fibbing some stuff. She said she found a suicide first hand (she didn't) and that her hexes had previously worked.
Do I regret the relationship ending? No.
I don't know who won the love game.
she went to an old boyfriend after a few months though.
I’d say you won at life just by getting the fuck out of that relationship.
Sounds like you might have been involved with someone with BPD, which is a disorder that sucks for sufferers and loved ones alike. Good on you for calling it off when you realised it was unhealthy, and recognising that her struggles weren't yours to bear.
I broke up with him for cheating on me possibly dozens of times so I feel like I definitely loved him more
Are ya winning son?
"I've never loved you. You make everything into stupid games"
"Heh, dumb bitch, that means I win!"
What the hell game is that?
That still ain’t going to fix the pain of heartbreak 😖
You are loved and will love again.
I realize this is an unhealthy mindset, but I have always believed "whoever says 'I love you' first, loses." So far, it has proven itself factual.
I can't even start to describe how wrong this is.
Someone breaking up with you due to an abusive relationship doesn't really scream out "I love you more"
If they break up with you on the phone, you also technically win the "no, you hang up first" competition
Breaking up with someone doesn't mean you don't love them.
When my ex and I broke up he said “I guess I won the I love you more game, hey?” I thought it was cringey at the time and just ignored him, but I think back everyday and just wish I had said something. Let him know that I still cared about him even amidst what happened.
We'll damn, I've finally won something.
Winning that game sounds painful
yes. and it will make you so fucking happy afterwards.
no point in holding on to something that is twisting against you though
The one who initiated the break up may not be the one loving less.
What's" I love u more "game?
I broke up because she cheated on me with my best friend. Does that mean she's won the game?
Loving someone who doesn’t love you as much? Sounds like you’re losing instead
Winner! Winner! Popey's 2 can dine for $8.99 spicy tenders dinner! 4 1.
The one who falls in love first, loses.
Play stoopid games, win stoopid prizes.
Then why am I not happy?
I didn't win anything
*cries in winner
Good ol' OP. Always looking for the silver lining.
Not really a game I want to keep winning...
hey there , i've won the " i love you more " game so many times ... a streak !
That really depends, because if you beat, cheat or similar on your lover, then by your actions you have shown that you don't.
I made this point to an ex after she broke up with me.
She just agreed....
On the phone, sobbing:
"I love you more..."
"I know, I'm sorry"