I am a recovering alcoholic. Spending most of my time at home exploring my hobby's, attending virtual counseling, and rebuilding relationships with my loved ones has helped me to realize that no substance has ever given me so much contentment, and I honestly never want to give up what I have now. In 4 weeks, I will be celebrating my 2 year sobriety anniversary. The grass (underneath the foot of snow) has never seemed greener!
I got to spend a lot more time with aging pets. I had to put down a cat this fall but for seven months he got to lay on my keyboard and interrupt zoom calls all day. I also have a 12 year old lab and spending this year with her all day every day has been awesome.
Save money on gas
Not to mention wasting time just sitting in a traffic jam to get to a desk that I also happen to have in the office at home...
This! I don’t miss the commute at all. Got back at least an hour a day because of this.
2x50min every day here, loving it. Home office equipment (and the coffee) is also way better than my actual office, so no regrets other than not meeting people I work with.
A lot of restaraunts have really upped their online ordering and drive through game. Like a well oiled machine
And some shockingly haven't. I got take out from one of my favorite restaurants the other day, and it took so long to order on the phone, that next time I'm just going to go down there and place an order in person. I had to speak to three different people to accomplish it - being put on hold each time - and give my credit card over the phone. And before you ask, yes, they advertise take out on their website and menu, so it isn't as if it's a service they don't normally provide.
The place I work is one of the places that hasn't for sure. We used to have people up front with dedicated positions, taking orders, bagging to-go, etc. But corporate panicked and are forcing managers to schedule less people, then add to that doing way more curbside and phone orders there are just too many things to do and not enough people.
During lunch there's a line of people. Phone rings now you have to stop taking orders from them. Order comes up you have to bag it, phone rings during bagging you have to answer it, oh it's someone curbside so now you have to finish bagging the order your already doing, find and take out the curbside order, then finally come back in to help the understandably unhappy guy that walked up to your register four minutes ago.
Somehow saving a couple hours of labor is worth loads of unhappy customers and overworked employees though.
Not dealing with a commute.
I got 6 to 8 hours a week back in commuting time. That's, like, about a whole extra work day every week that's mine to do with as I please. It's been incredible.
And I hadn't realized how stressed my commute makes me. I don't have to be careful not to forget anything before I leave for work (or when I'm leaving the office at the end of the day), I don't have to pack lunch, I don't have to make sure I'm dressed for the weather both now and in 8 hours when I'm coming home. I don't have to get wet when I get that wrong, and I don't have to spend a day at work with my shoes and socks wet, or all of me wet. I don't have to wait at a bus stop for forty minutes waiting for a bus that should have been here thirty minutes ago.
No Commute =
Also getting stuck at work by 5 minutes, no longer means getting a train 30 minutes later .... it actually means 5 minutes.
Also, getting good at writing well formatted long posts. I like it. 🙂
People finally washing their hands
Not seeing your toxic coworkers
cries in hospital worker
The toxic ones became more insufferable since they are some of the only people I see now.
ugh for real. i’m so jealous of all the WFH people because working in a hospital has been awful the past year
I started therapy last year because the stress surrounding everything and living alone haven't been a good mix. I started back in school last May, but other than stress, college in a pandemic has kind of been a boon for me.
I am ready to graduate and GTFO of hospital work. I am over it.
If it wasn't for the pandemic, my dad would be dead right now.
He likes to come over to our place while I'm at work and spend time with my dogs. My papillon got away from him and wanted to play chase in our garage, which is basically a storage unit right now, and she was bobbing and weaving through boxes. When he caught her and took her inside, he noticed he was having a hard time catching his breath.
My brother, who lives with me, offered to let him use his new oxygen meter, which he bought after he developed some temporary sleep apnea after he had covid. The meter was frighteningly low, so he told our dad to go to the walk-in clinic. They told him as soon as he explained his oxygen level that he needed to go to the ER.
He tests negative for covid at the ER, but they found MULTIPLE blood clots in his lungs. They kept him a few days in the hospital, and he made a complete recovery with no permanent damage.
I know my dad very well. Under normal circumstances, he would have gone home, tried to relax, gone to bed that night, and possibly never woken up the next morning. But covid has us all on high alert, especially when it comes to breathing troubles. I NEVER thought I'd be thankful for it
Also after he got out of the hospital, he gave said papillon an extra special doggy treat for, "saving his life."
Similarly, if not for remote doctors and virtual visits, I would have let a potentially bad infection fester. I was too embarrassed for years to see a practitioner in person, and while the infection was very recent, I was dreading an appointment. And then, like angels heralding on high, I got an email from my insurance about scheduling remote consultations. I’ve now talked to more doctors this year on my own than ever before, and even made some progress with a therapist.
That’s such a sweet story, made all the better by your papillon! They’re the bestest!
Playing board games with my teenaged kids. We got away from it as they got older. I still kick ass on Scrabble, but they smoke me on Backgammon. Ticket to Ride is a blast. Yahtzee too.
Edit: Well this certainly resonated with the community. To answer a few questions: We don't play every night. A couple of times a week is where we're at now. We have more modern games, but Backgammon and Yahtzee- especially Yahtzee- is the one they like to play the most. Monopoly, when played without 'house rules' is fun. It probably won't last when things go back to normal, so I'm loving it while it lasts. Thanks for the awards!
I have two teens (and a spouse). We really enjoy Spoons and Bullshit. Easy, fast paced card games. We also play blackjack as a family. We have a whole set of cards and chips. We keep a running tally of our chips on paper. My husband gets so mad because our daughter plays her gut and he plays by the “rules” and she is like a fake billionaire now and he’s always panhandling for fake money to get him back in the game. It’s a riot. Our son is always the dealer, our “casino” is named after him and it’s a good exercise in social skills and self control.
My kids are younger, 8 and 5, but we have been playing a TON of checkers, beginners chess, Uno, a few other little kid games but the clear champ of the pandemic has been Aggravation. We were introduced to it over the summer and have played it so so so many times. It's great because young kids can easily play, but you can also play it over drinks (in my case with my wife, her sister and sister's husband...they're in our "pod"). It's got just enough strategy to keep it interesting, and you can play while pretty drunk, believe me on that! But it's also easy to grasp for young kids and teaches them some basic strategy and counting. I've been recommending it to our all our friends!
Cleaner beaches and ocean in Hawaii as millions of tourists stayed home. Of course the economy went to sh*t, but the Aloha ‘Āina prospered.
And way less traffic on the morning commute on the H-1.
I now permanently work from home, which is amazing!
Me prior to 2020 "Man getting a job working from home would be amazing, but I don't even know where to start" Me getting moved to permanently work from home due to Covid "Oh ok well that works I guess"
Pretty much any pre 2020 job listing that said "work from home" was guaranteed to be a scam. Now here we are, leaving the dream, in our sweatpants listening to music all day in our basements.
My employer is still kicking the can down the road of whether well have to come back to the office when is over. I've been WFH for a solid year. I'm not going back to an office. Any business that doesn't continue to embrace the new reality is going to have trouble.
If asked propose it from a money saving standpoint...
Office has to provide space for x number of people and costs y dollars.. current office has to provide space for 0 number of people and costs 0 dollars, how much does that add to the profit of the business not having to have office space, internet, electricity, etc...
Why as a company are you choosing to negatively impact the bottom line to get the same amount of work done? This limits the funds for raises and so many other things the company could do to benefit morale which would further boost production.. It is also saving employee's money so in a round about way they gave everyone a raise by having them work from home only to take it away for some outdated construct of real life Office Space
I have a few points; your company is still responsible for you, notably for safety during the job. They will have to prove their efforts one way or the other in some time, so its not that it is all for free now.
I also feel the company should give you the required means to do your job. One of my colleagues doesnt have a desk at home. my supervisor didnt know what to do.
For me, I would have bought the desk, or asked for it like months ago. We have desks in the office (IKEA stuff, so can be disassembled), if I were my boss I would let that colleague pick up one of those for the time being.
A client of mine lets their employees take home equipment like screens or chairs (if requested with a valid reason), that felt like a good and simple solution to me.
I think offices will be smaller in the future and have a higher amount of meeting space than now (compared to cubicle space so to say), but we must not forget there are people that cannot work from home, due to technological limits (like living outside the internet grid) or for personal issues
I haven’t had a cold all year.
Yeah this past year has probably been the healthiest I've ever been. Haven't ever had anything more than a minor headache, and that's usually just due to dehydration or something mundane.
I started quarantine by becoming lactose intolerant for six months.
You lucky bastard.
I’ve developed a nice solid set of GERD and lactose intolerance, so being able to stay near a toilet has been the best part for me
Aye, GERD crew in da house!
I've had it all my life but realised during the pandemic that apparently not everyone constantly burps and almost throws up after eating, and the random coughing I do at times during the night isn't normal
Even just not commuting saves a ton of money. I was paying 15 bucks a day on light rail and parking at the station, and then buying crappy expensive lunch and coffee near the office. Now, I work at home, where I eat my own food and drink my own coffee. I'm probably saving at least $150 a week.
We are spending a lot more at the grocery store.
But a lot less overall.
Grocery stores are definitely the cheapest option for food.
There’s a travel explosion coming from the pent up demand right after this thing is over, isn’t there?
I'm going full Carmen San Diego on this bitch as soon as this mess is over
I’m missing a tooth fairly close to the front of my mouth and I don’t feel self conscious smiling in public when I’m wearing a mask. It’s a silly thing, but I kinda missed real smiles.
Thanks for the awards, guys! My most liked/commented comment is about my fucked up teeth. That’s... something. Lol
Same, I need dental work done so being able to wear a mask in public is really a blessing.
I feel you. Almost all of my teeth are trashed from my various illnesses. I cant afford to fix my teeth and a mask makes me feel so much better.
Without a social life, I've been forced to focus on myself instead of other people- so I've cut down on my drinking, lost 35 lbs, and started seeing a therapist. Here's hoping I come out of this in better physical and mental shape than I went in
Me too! I lost 17 lbs and I just was discharged from therapy because my depression is officially, clinically at a zero. Go us!
Edit: HOLY SHIT. Thanks for the awards, friends!
To answer some questions:
Weight loss: I initially did a wellness challenge called 75HARD—a 75 day challenge that requires two workouts per day and sticking to a diet of your choice, among several other daily tasks. That kicked my butt into gear and got me into the habit of regularly exercising and eating well, so I’ve lost a few more lbs since I completed it in September. This also helped my mental health a lot, but not completely.
Mental health: I did Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which is a form of CBT that focuses on accepting your feelings and mindfully working through them, rather than avoiding them. My therapist had me fill out a questionnaire every time we met and based on my answers, he was able to calculate numbers on a depression scale. I can’t go into more detail about that, cause I don’t know, but I started at a 42/100 and last week was at a 3 on one scale. And on another I started out at a 7/10 and last week was at a 0. So I’m clinically not depressed I guess. Plus, the last several weeks I’ve come to him feeling great and having little to talk about, which meant it was time for me to be discharged.
Why was I discharged? My therapist works out of a medical facility, rather than private practice, so they go based on a medical model. It’s more of a “let’s give our patients the tools they need to cope and once they no longer NEED us, we’ll let them go,” so they can make room for more patients with acute needs, rather than a “we’ll see patients as long as they pay us.” I could’ve been referred to someone like that, but, like I said, I didn’t have much to talk about by the end.
What specifically helped me? Mindfulness exercises and writing down 5 good things about myself each day. My negative self talk was the biggest factor in my depression. I don’t do that anymore. I am a badass!
What the fucking hell is “clinically at zero”?! Who did you see and how did they do it? I feel cheated. My entire experience with ten plus years of therapy and probably five or six different therapists has been “still got depression huh? Welp, see you next month!”
Man I feel totally the opposite. I've gained weight and feel totally anxious and depressed. I think I was before but now feel like deffff am. Considering therapy but feel overwhelmed by the different options. Like there are so many different titles and qualifications and methods and the insurance is even more confusing than finding a primary care. Which I also need to do....
I'm just a guy writing a comment on the internet, but do it as soon as possible. It's really not that hard once you start setting it up, and it's way easier right now than it might be later. If you'll get confused, tired, resigned during that remember it's mostly caused by what condition you're in - and which is the reason you're doing this in the first place. It happens, like breaking a leg or catching a cold, and you need to fight it. The good part is that you can fight it just by meeting with someone who will show you how you fix it.
Cognitive behavioral therapy will definitely be a good starting point and might actually be all you need. Don't focus too much on therapist's certifications, hobbies, look etc, just look at their education. If possible find a psychologist, not a therapist (although I know at least two great therapists, it's not very common, at least in my country).
No pressure to go somewhere on my days off. I don't feel like I'm wasting time when I have days off and don't spend them traveling or seeing people. I love staying at home and just hanging with my two cats. Sweat pants on, messy bun, junk food and games. I'm content with that
Yes. I think I have learned to accept my homebody nature instead of feeling like I "should" be going out and doing things. There's nothing wrong with making a home for yourself and then enjoying being there.
I agree. Your house is like all set up how you like it, has all your favourate things in it, ought to be climate controlled to your exact preferances. Is comfortable and has your family/pets in it.
So on and so forth.
My house is my favourate place. Just as it should be. Unless your my mam who gets a bit nutty if she doesn't aimlessly wander outside each week.
My wife used to pressure me nearly every weekend to go do something outside the house. It's really nice to be able to relax at home, now, reliably.
I’m sick a lot less often.
The kids are doing school entirely from home so they don’t bring crap home like they used to.
This has definitely been my healthiest winter ever
Right? I usually get bronchitis or pneumonia every winter no matter what. This is the first winter in my entire life I haven't had so much as a cold or a sniffle
knock on wood
I get this horrible cough every winter. It’s weeks, sometimes an entire month of (very literally) nonstop coughing where I can barely sleep or breathe. This was the first year I didn’t have it 🙌🏼
I don't have kids but I also got sick 0 times last year... amazing what never leaving home and wearing masks will do, COVID aside! Went from taking ~a week of sick time off over all of 2019 to no days off except holidays in 2020.
I got sick more purely because i ordered so much doordash i was playing food poisoning roulettes
I work in a store and my kids still go to school.
I used to get 2-3 colds per winter and so far nothing. My kids still haven't cought anything.
Wearing masks is great for that reason.
I saw a news story a few weeks ago about how cases of the normal flu were slashed by masking and social distancing.
“Basically nonexistent “ I read today.
Some virology scientists are salivating over the next few years worth of influenza data, I can tell you that.
"Long term effects of temporary quarantine, masking, and social distancing on influenza infection rates, when adjusted for vaccination levels." or some similar mouthful title.
Southern California traffic. Freeways basically wide open for the last year.
getting to home cook meals while “at work” is a fantastic weight loss plan. Down almost 50 pounds since September and haven’t looked back.
edit: this comment blew up, thanks for the awards but if you are looking for ways to spend money, please donate to your favorite quality charity instead of buying me virtual stickers. As far as how I've done it, I don't want to shill for anyone but I've been using Noom since September, which has basically helped me manage my CICO (Calories in/Calories out) with a fine tooth comb and also helped adjust my mental approach to health and specifically how I look at food. I spend most of my time in the grocery store in the produce aisle now, I don't try to necessarily view foods as good and bad but instead look at different foods and how they will help me, and I don't sit and stress over any bumps in the road. Weight gains are just things my body needs from time to time to help on the journey, and sometimes you just need a treat for mental joy, which is okay.
I'd be happy to offer advice to anyone who wants it, but also know that I'm still learning new things every day about my own weight loss journey.
Worked opposite for us. More time to cook means we're all eating more. I've gained 14lb in a year which is really not good as I'm short AF. But on the other hand, the whole family are happier.
As someone who struggles with eating while bored, I've gained a little bit of weight over the past year.
My employer now knows for sure that working from home is completely doable and really doesn't fuck up productivity.
I've also learned that I like going into the office once or twice a week just to break up the monotony of working from home all the time.
I agree with both. I miss the social aspect of the office. Just me at home, so being cooped up so long is getting to me.
My last full time, obligated (long story) job I literally had to sit in my office and twiddle my thumbs for 8 hours and then head home. It was rare that I interacted with anyone in the offices around me.
Those kinds of jobs sound great in theory but get old very quickly
I'm working one of them now, had to change jobs when covid hit. Happy to have a paycheck, but this shit is BORING
How do these jobs pop up at all? Like is it just waiting to do stuff for 7.5 hours a day or is it genuinely just sitting around all day and getting paid?
i love not having to communicate with anyone face to face because i stutter too much
Hey, everyone’s got their pros and cons. For the first whatever months I absolutely loved it, just starting to get old now. I go into the office once a week but no one else is there but me so it’s basically the same as being home.
I can mouth obscenities at people and they don't have a clue
This is my absolute favorite thing! And if I double up on the masks, I can mumble under my breath and they don’t hear it. Soft spoken people happiness. Lol
My wife loves the pandemic because she gets to work from home, so no more commuting to work. She has basically gotten back two hours of her day.
Nice. Lucky for her. Office work from home is much more practical and financially better.
Finding out that not everyone needs to trudge for over an hour or more to get their job five days a week. That it's possible to work from home perfectly fine.
EDIT: Yes, I know not everyone can work from home, some people have to go in, this is why I specifically stated "not everyone".
Also thanks for the awards. c:
Commuting should get way better even for people who don’t stay permanent WFH. If a large number of companies switch to that the roads should become way less congested and people who commute will probably spend much less time stuck in traffic.
I’ve driven to work every day this whole time. What used to be 55-75 minutes each way is a consistent 25-30.
At the very beginning of the pandemic, I used to go for rides and the roads were completely empty. It was so creepy, that’s not something that EVER happens here. Now we’re back to overflowing rush hours, it’s like everyone went back to work already
This better stick around after the pandemic
Imagine the people they would lose if they stopped doing it, gotta b here to stay
Oh yeah. Just drop it on the porch, my man. I’ve been obsessively watching your progress so I’ll get it immediately after you leave. We don’t need to chat.
"Leave at door"
I've doubled what I tip in part because shit's tough right now but also because I love not having to answer the door to meet someone when I'm high af and just want my food.
As a driver I’m 100% pleased with this experience and thank you kindly lol
I have now learned that I don't lack time to do things, just motivation
"I have all the time in the world to get in shape and learn something new!"
A year later and I've made much less progress than I should have given the amount of free time.
Hmm. I've lost interest in all my hobbies and gotten fat instead of learning anything new. So it sounds like you're killing it!
Depression. You've made progress in depression.
Nah man I'm for sure not depressed but I'm going down the same path. I'm loving it.
May be shit for my health but still... I'm liking my year long break from existence.
How funny is it that so many of us thought we were going to be SO productive during one of the most distressing times in human history.
I was absolutely on fire during the first month of lockdown/working from home. I started all these creative projects, went out for a jog on my lunch breaks (and even after work too) and was having blast with all this new time! Then a couple more months went by and I started to feel the opposite. Just roll out of bed, get on work computer, finish up and log off around 5pm, cook dinner, get back in bed and Netflix/Reddit til sleep...
I still have no idea wtf happened there...?
Covid depression. Our whole family did exceedingly well the entire first year. Our daughter and I started running. My wife started making art. I bragged to anyone who would listen that we were doing GREAT! Then it got really cold and snowy and sleety and rainy and miserable. And just like that, we were just like everyone else....Covid depressed. FOL (fuck our lives).
Same here. Turns out I'm basically a dog: I need sunshine and regular walks. And daily socialization.
Yup! Now that I think about it, when Winter rolled up and things got darker and colder and I didn't want to go outside anymore...that's when I really let myself get into a habbit of inactivity, resulting in some pretty bad lethargy. Then it just snowballed from there to the point getting out of bed was almost physically painful (?).
Hey, are you me?? This is also my life...
I think we expected too much of ourselves. Just because we are home doesn’t change the circumstances of stress. It’s been a very trying year for people mentally and I can’t blame anyone for being like “meh, what’s the fucking point?”
You also don't get to have new experiences and nothing to break the monotony. You can't get out as much and you don't get a choice about it. If you are a hermit by nature, you still had the opportunity to get out if you wanted to. That has been taken away.
Yes! I don't have any excuses to put my work off for later anymore.
My 14 year old dog passed away last July. Our whole family had been working/schooling from home full time starting in March, so we all got to love on her and care for her full time for her last months.
Same. My childhood dog passed away October 2020, had a stroke, and he suddenly couldn’t walk or eat or drink, he was already skinnier due to his lack of appetite, so we decided to put him down. I think of him everyday, and I think my other dog misses him too.
This. My dog suffered from dementia and was deaf, so I made sure to give him 100 % of my time, take him for walks and cuddle him even though he wasn’t aware of me anyway. Even a month before he was put down he could walk 4 kms with me. But then he lost some weight, didn’t want to eat so we had to change his food... he had a massive stroke and got paralysed because of that, he even wasn’t able to blink, just nonstop barking. It was scary as hell. But because of lockdown I found out immediately and was able to get him to a vet in two hours. Unfortunately the test results were really bad, so I decided to do what was best for him. After 16 amazing years it was his time to go. I’m glad that lockdown happened because I could spend his 6 last months taking care of him basically 24/7.
Spending time with my dog
Dogs are the real winners of the pandemic.
I can't believe our dogs all got together an engineered a worldwide pandemic to get what they've always wanted.
Dogs would never do something that evil or well planned. This was cats.
As if cats would ever want us home to interrupt their evil plans.
I dunno about that. My cats seem pretty happy about me being home all the time.
My dog would disagree, her bread and cracker consumption has been nonexistent since the start of the pandemic, so much harder to steal things from the pantry with everybody home all the time
My dog is getting up there and I’m so grateful that I’ve been able to spend extra time with him.
What is he doing up there?
But seriously, my dog is 14 now and I'm going to miss him so much when he is gone.
I lost two of mine a month ago. This last year gave me a lot of time with them and I'm grateful for it. Give your pupper some scritches for me!
I'm in NZ so super lucky. When it first hit we locked down for 4 weeks, I'm self employed so the government gave me a wage subsidy, like 30% of my normal income but plenty to live on.
Best bit is I was renovating my house at the time, so I got payed to renovate my own place for 4 weeks.
Cries in American
Oh man. I’m so jealous at the way your community handled the whole thing. I’m glad it’s gone well for you.
I have a 19 year old cat. He's been getting slower and I know what's on the horizon... but the fact that I've been able to be at home all day everyday? He's loved it, he's on my lap hours a day. Knowing that I've made his (probably) last year the best is probably the only thing good about the pandemic.
Edit 1: holy sheet this blew up and gold! Glad so many people can share their stories as well. FYI even though he's 19, he's in good health (the vets are always surprised at his age) and just has some arthritis in the hips.
Edit 2: https://imgur.com/a/o7Amynn cat tax, taken this morning of said old boy.
Good for you. I'm 25 and the remaining 3/4 of the pets I had since grade school all had to be put down over the course of the last year. 2 dogs and a cat. They all just happened to be at that age, and I'm so glad I got to spend the last few months they had hanging out with them.
I've been home full time now for almost a year, so he's been just loving every day of it. Plus he occasionally gets french fries or a piece of a doughnut, because he's earned it.
Name checks out!
I buried my 21 y/o cat last fall ... i miss him so much but my ither cat is more cuddly since he is gone so thats a bit of comfort. Sigh...
Ugh. I have two cats, a brother and a sister. They’re 7 and I get so anxious about them aging. I’ve had them since they were 4 weeks old. I can’t fathom being without them. I worry how one will cope without the other. Basically my cat mom heart is breaking as I read this. Guess I’m allowing them in my bed tonight.
I'm in f'in tears now...
... I also lost my two dogs and a cat this year. Came home after a year to see my cat with fluid in her lungs. Got to sleep with her one last time before we had to ease her pain... Sometimes you just get the feeling it's time to go somewhere for a reason.
... Lost my German Sheppard a few months later while I was away... It ate me alive...
... Came home from my final deployment to my Bernese Mountain dog going blind due to lymphoma.
... And I'm sitting here crying listening to Daft punk...
Edit: grammatical changes. Thank you for the awards guys. It seriously isn't expected. I appreciate the support. 2nd Edit: It's good to see good people on the internet still.
Same here, my girl isn’t quite 19 - she’s just turned 14 but I’ve absolutely loved being able to play and have cuddles all day everyday. My new fav thing to do is wake her up with treats in between my work.
Edit: for the weirdos...this is about a cat 🤦🏻♀️
My cat died of cancer this past summer. I'm glad I was able to be home with her for the last few months of her life.
I got to be home for my old boy’s last few months. It was nice but sad too. He was 17 and passed on Mother’s Day.
Yeah, i should get up and do some work now.
Yes! No alarm clocks!!
My caution and anxiety about people can be successfully hidden by the pandemic. I am not forced to be overly social and can more successfully avoid crowded areas.
I’m worried my mild agoraphobia before the pandemic is going to be a bit more severe after this is all over.
Last year was supposed to be the year I got out more an put myself in more of those situations I don’t wanna be in. I can confirm it has just gotten worse.
Let me tell you, I fucking love not having to fake smile at everyone all the time.
My daughter is medically fragile and we pulled her out of her school when Covid hit (she’s only 3 1/2). She’s developmentally delayed and went to a special preschool. I was able to drop down at work and we’ve really been working with her. My kids get to see me more and my daughter is making wonderful improvement. She’s rarely been sick this past year, it’s been her healthiest year.
I got a fully-funded scholarship and met Jean Michel Basquiat's studo assistant while working on a paper about him.
For me personally, online learning. It just clicks with my brain somehow. I’ve gotten the best grades these past few semesters of my whole time in college. I’m off academic probation, I got an A in a class I failed twice before (required for my major), and I am able to do a second major I really wanted. I’m so much less stressed about exams and it feels so good to be able to show my parents grades I’m proud of.
I don’t know how I would’ve been able to do this without online classes. I had a lot of trouble with attendance, and my bad memory, and now I’m able to go to class from my room and re-watch lectures and have some notes for exams.
I felt so low my first few years of college and I finally feel good about myself as a student. It’s still hard to believe that it’s me getting these grades and graduation is scary but I’m so glad I get to do it.
Edit: thank you so much for all of the support and the really interesting discussions people are having! And a special thank you to the people who gave me awards, that's very kind of you all!
I think the big takeaway here is that neither online nor in-person classes are objectively better, and that different learning formats work for different people. Hopefully colleges will be able to offer all or most classes in either format post-pandemic so that students can choose which version works for them. Good luck everyone, I believe in you!
Sadly the opposite for me. I used to be a straight A student and am now occasionally dipping into a few Ds
Wow uh ok. Thank you for the upvotes! I feel so popular lol. Sorry to see other people are in the same or similar situations as myself. Distractions are the main issue and dealing with them can be nearly impossible. If you have never had an actual use for your phone during class such as taking photos or texting a friend to ask for help then you can probably leave it out of the room. Or as a compromise try to be on your phone only in between classes it helped me a little. Maybe setting up a loose schedule would help as well so there are some boundaries you are more willing to follow but are flexible enough that you will actually continue to use them. For example: 30 min of screen time during lunch then homework for a few hours. If you finish homework early do future homework. If there is no future homework start learning a language. If you don’t want to learn a language, then do chores. Use that designated time to get boring helpful things out of the way then blow the rest on mindless entertainment and dinner. Hopefully that helps some people!
Most distance-learning students are either thriving or floundering. There are not many in between.
This is really problematic. It means employing a one size fits all teaching environment is failing students. The students who are now doing well were being failed by that system before. It's similar to me at work. I make fewer mistakes at home because I can only concentrate at home.
This. The ability to concentrate at work without people bothering me/with full control of whether to answer their call or not has increased my productivity massively. I don’t want to go back to the office because I’ve gotten so used to working without distractions from home.
Some kids must be in the same position regarding school work. It’s kind of sad because I can’t see a world where schools are anything but 100% in-school when we go back to normal and those kids will be failed once again.
This is what’s happening for me too. My sleep cycle is also in shambles, so I am absent from a lot of classes
Seconding this. I can pause the recording to think through something I don't understand, or work through a proof that clearly isn't trivial despite the lecturer's insistence so it won't distract me for the rest of the lesson. The easy parts I can juat fast-forward through.
You learned something important about yourself.. Several somethings, actually. You now know where and how and under what conditions you thrive.
The world has also learned several somethings too. "Out of the box" is no longer a metaphor. There are many ways to achieve. Remote employees can and will deliver. Embracing all this improves the bottom line!
Put these two things together: You now know what place you seek, and that place now EXISTS! Enjoy the finding of it, friend...
Gave me the opening to get out of a dead-end delivery job and focus on the shit I actually went to school for.
EDIT: HOLY SMOKES, this blew up! Thank you all for the kind words and awards!
Any progress at all is still progress, no matter how insignificant it may seem.
Edit: Well I went to sleep and this blew up massively, thanks everyone for the awards and kind words.
What is the most important step a man can take?
The next one, always the next one
And even fuckups—perhaps especially fuckups—are a powerful learning experience. Half the shit I know was because I did it wrong and know not to do it again.
When you fuckup really bad, and you think you've definitely screwed the pooch, that's when you have the potential to grow the most as a person.
Unless you, like, kill a guy.
Life before death, my friend.
Strength before weakness
Journey before destination
People have been able to spend more quality time with their children and pets
It has provided some pretty definitive proof that there is no reason for me to have to go into the office... Not that I mind being there all that much. I just hate commuting.
Having a mask on in the cold is lowkey the best
Unless you have glasses :(
Edit: y’all, I’ve tried wearing my masks/glasses all kinds of ways and short of hermetically sealing the mask against my skin, it’s still gonna fog up in the cold no matter what. Haven’t tried the anti fog stuff though so I may check that out!
Ok so I tried all of the damned tricks and none of them worked. So I'm gonna give you some advice for the ritual I do and the products I used as I have to wear a mask 14-16 hours a day and wearing glasses is not optional for me.
Amazon. Fog gone spray and anti-fog cloth. Every day, I spray both sides of both lenses with the spray. Sit my glasses down, give em a beer and let em chill for 3 minutes (give em at least 2-3 min) while the solution drips/dries. Then wipe down each lense with the anti fog cloth 10 seconds each side of the lens (you can do the thing where you rub both sides at once).
Keep the fog cloth on you to touch up every now and then during the day. Wash your glasses with soap and water once a week and after you wash perform the ritual. Shit changed my life. I can bring my glasses into the shower and turn my bathroom into a fucking sauna without my glasses fogging up now.
ETA OH GOD I MEANT ANTI FOG CLOTH GUYS DONT BUY THE ANTI DRUG CLOTH ITS A NARC
Agreed. I will be wearing a mask every winter season from here on out. For warmth and to protect against germs.
This right here! Asia has been doing it forever, and now it's normalized enough no one will look at me weird for keeping it going
Not having my mil at the hospital when I gave birth.
I have a 14 month old daughter - born in January 2020.
Had I been commuting to work every day, I would have missed out on a lot of her early months of development and wouldn't have the bond with her that I do.
Also used the time to teach my 4 year old son to ride a bike, and went on some awesome bike rides with him. We were locked to a 5km radius for a while and we got to know our neighborhood really well. Made rafts and floated them down the creek. Harassed a lot of bull ants and jumped in a lot of puddles.
Dude same, my baby is about to make a year, b: March 2020. The fact that I can stay home and be with him for the first year while keeping my job, is a dream come true
100% agree. My son was born in February and I’ve spent so much time with him I wouldn’t have had otherwise. No commute = extra half hour on either side of the workday plus lunch breaks.
If my bosses think I’m coming back to the office after this, they can eat 10,000 dicks instead. I can get another job, but I can’t get back this time as a dad.
Not shaking hands. I have palmar hyperhydrosis (sweaty palms) and am always nervous about shaking hands. I try to manage it, but it is always a stressor. NO MORE!!!
I have a daughter, she’s two now and I used to work at Taco Bell as a manager and would get off work around 4/5 in the morning. Barely had any time for myself let alone school. When the pandemic happened some of her fathers family members became home more (we lived with them) and I was able to start and finish a medical office administration program and now I’m certified working as a medical billing assistant 9-5 and my graduation is in April :) I’m 24f btw
Working from home , i love not having to communicate with anyone face to face because i stutter too much
Always dressing casual, having more time to pursue hobbies, easier to slack off at work
I live in NYC. Gotta admit one thing I like about the masks - I love walking around and listening to my music while lip syncing hardcore without people noticing lmao 💁♀️
My neighbor and I started spending every day together. After 6 months of lockdown I joked that she should move in with me. A couple months later she did. A few months later we kissed for the first time and it's been amazing ever since. ❤
Not having to see my in-laws, lol
I know I can’t speak on behalf of all workplaces but having employers/managers take employee wellness a little more seriously now. Back then at my place of work, if you had a bad cold or some flu symptoms, they’d still want you in on your shift regardless.
But now with covid and some state legislation that has passed, my managers now get really concerned if we start feeling ill and urge us to take time off.
No company holiday parties!
My company, instead of springing for the annual holiday party and summer picnic and other social nonsense, has delivered us monthly care packages. So far we’ve had an oatmeal box (gourmet toppings and go-withs plus a pack of local steel-cut oats) a hot sauce box full of brands I’d never heard of, a charcuterie box (some assembly required), a grilled cheese box (included a grill pan even!) and a tabletop s’mores box, another other fun things. Our team Slack has a channel devoted to the discussion about the monthly boxes/baskets.
My job let us expensive out $20 for delivery and we all have a zoom party. Only lasted about two hours and I was in my PJs the entire time. It was bliss.
My girlfriend and I used the inability to go out to start cooking at home and dieting. In 6 months we have lost a combined 102 lbs so far! Now we are adding exercise and changing our habits!
I got furloughed from a store position in March, got on unemployment, got paid to play video games until July, and just as my unemployment was set to run out, I came back on in an office position from my couch, working less hours for the same pay. Somehow I've come out on top of all this. My savings have skyrocketed and I don't have to see people anymore. Win fucking win.
I know with all the people struggling financially that it’s not polite to say but the pandemic has really been very helpful for our family financially. Easily put $10,000 into savings because of it. My wife’s work was temporarily closed from March-September but she was still getting her normal pay and she stayed home with our kid so no daycare costs.
Not having to pay for that expensive wedding on a different continent and doing it on zoom instead.
Mortgage deposit nearly sorted as a result.
I haven't been told I'd look prettier if I smiled in like a year. It's kinda awesome.
One of the first days after reopening I had a guy tell me us all wearing masks was rude because he couldn't tell if we were smiling....
"We're not. Life is suffering. How may I help you, bearing in mind this is all a distraction from the yawning abyss?"
I’ve worn a bra no more than 15 times this year.
This has really been the year to free the titties.
Me learning bunch of new things I wouldn't have during the pandemic. I got good at 3d printing, 3d modeling, Art, and coding so it's been a hella fun ride and I'm still learning a bunch of different things.
Being able to sneak in domestic tasks during the work day since I WFH permanently now, the dishes get done daily, clothes washed more often.
Mentally I think overall working from home just suits me, I wear what I want, I don't need to appear busy to coworkers, I can have podcasts, music or you tube blaring and I can shitpost on reddit with ease and best of all I have been productive af with my job since probably working with my company despite what appears to be me slacking off listing the above.
I lost my husband before the pandemic hit. My daughter was daddy’s little girl. This whole year has been us bonding again. She’s 5, her whole life has been hard, I’m disabled, we were homeless. My son who has a different father didn’t allow him to be in the shelter with us. This is the first time in her life where I’m not hospitalized, we have a stable roof over our heads and have time for each other after all the absolute chaos of the first 4 years of her life. Also my son was with me for 6 full months without having to go back to his dad’s. Honestly for my family, it was a blessing in disguise.
Um..... interest rates?
Amen! I bought a house about a year ago at a crazy low rate and am now looking to refinance because rates are even lower. It's crazy.
Got over my body dysmorphia and gained a shit ton of confidence. I was 🤏 this close to having an eating disorder. Now I love myself and my hobbies more than ever and will never go back to that state again :)
people stay the f*ck away from me
Giving up on stuff.
I decided to try so many things and buy into so many new hobbies that had been in my head for so many years at the start that it was a relief to decide I was enough as a person pretty much the way I was originally
Self love bros ♡